If you’re anything like me, reading this title would make you wonder if I was a little high or losing my mind. I promise I’m neither – this is the plain, honest truth as I’ve experienced it. If the title piqued your curiosity, then good. This is not really a how-to article…but it is a true-to-life experience article and honestly, I never expected to be the one to write something like this from my own experience.
Let me begin at the very beginning. The blogger I’m writing this guest article for is quite honestly my oldest (and very cherished) friend in the world. She and I were born two days apart in the same hospital in South India and our lives have been intertwined ever since. I like to say that God brought us together and has kept us together ever since. She has been a constant source of encouragement on pretty much every step where I’ve found myself faltering and particularly in the one niggling matter of finding “the guy”. A few years ago, when I was at one of those low points in my life – when every possible doubt you have weighs you down and you wonder – ‘is love ever going to find me’ and maudlin thoughts outweigh the rational – she counseled me to focus on what I wanted in a guy and make a detailed list and put it out there in the universe and wait. Easier said than done! Anyway, being at the end of the proverbial rope I decided to make that list and surprisingly, it does make you feel a little better. There’s something tangible about the written word. As a sneak preview, I’ll mention a few things on that hallowed list – tall, Irish, blue eyes, similar faith in God. I eventually, let that list rest and went about my life, not really stressing as much about finding the guy but not really finding the guy either!
2013 started off feeling like a different year altogether. I knew something was coming this year, but didn’t know what exactly. I’d also finally gotten to the point where I decided to let the pining for “the guy” go and let him just come to me. I realized that I had a lot of good things on my plate already and if it wasn’t time for him to be on the same plate – then I could at least enjoy the rest. A cousin contacted me out of the blue and encouraged me to give a popular dating website another try – saying there were good men out there and I had to give it one more shot. So, I said to myself – why not?! Among the men that contacted me was this one guy whom I initially responded to because I found that he had a similar interest in traveling to Ireland. After a few exchanges, I started to have some doubts (as sometimes happens with online communications) and almost ended the exchange.
It would’ve surely ended there, if he hadn’t had the ‘audacity’ to call me out on my own fears and in a very down-to-earth manner give me the choice to find out if there was a possibility of a continued exchange between us. He let me set my own pace and ladies tell me you don’t like a man who lets the girl set the pace! We started as friends – no pressure – just emailing, talking and texting and getting to know each other. We progressed to our first date on a snowy evening – that pretty much decided it for me. He was the IT guy. If I can refer back to my list again – he was tall, of Irish origin, blue eyed and shared my faith in God! We stayed all night talking and holding hands and it was simply the best date I’ve had. I started to fall in love with a good man and a gentleman – he even dusted the snow off my car! Might be a silly thing to remember but it mattered a lot to me.
We decided to become FB official – because who can say they’re really dating without letting the social network know about it right?! Less than four months later, on my 35th birthday, he surprised me – by popping the question and without a doubt, I accepted. The four months involved a whirlwind getting to know both families, lots of driving and texting and phone calls. Did I mention we were in a long-distance relationship? And did I mention that we will be tying the knot in less than 60 days?
Yup…it’s less than a year and I’ve managed to meet, date, get engaged and will soon be getting married to the guy I’ve waited a long while to meet. Ladies, pull that jaw up from off the floor. As unbelievable as this may sound…believe it…it happens! It took a lot of prayer, a lot of patient (and sometimes not-so-patient) waiting and the tiniest bit of hope that he existed. If you’re looking – don’t give up hope. Pray hard and trust that the right guy is out there and looking for you too. And when it comes to you, don’t fight too hard, give in and let yourself experience the wonder that is the love of a good man. Here’s hoping that the experiences married life brings will help us grow together as a couple!
9 thoughts on “Guest Blog : How to Meet, Date and Marry your Soulmate in One Year! (by Shomita Sarah)”
Absolutely lovely Shomita…wishing u loads of love and a very happily ever after..
Hey Janani… thank you for those kind words and wishes. Very much needed and appreciated.
I too met my husband online but not through a dating service. We met in SecondLife in April 2007. We communicated online (in world, IM & video chat) and through some phone calls. He came here over the holidays to meet my family and make our engagement official. We had to wait until November 2008 to marry because of the immigration process.
Glad to hear it Cassi. I know there have to be many women out there who’ve had the good fortune to find a good guy. I’m glad to hear from you.
Beautifully articulated, Shomita. Love and best wishes being sent your way. May you have a “happy ever after”.
Damayanti is so pure that her prayers for all of us are always answered–without fail.
Congratulations !!! wishing you and Jeff , A God Centered Happy Married life . 🙂 –
as you start a wonderful journey as a couple soon. May your Home be filled with gladness.
Finally the patience of waiting has paid off. I Am so glad you found Mr. Right !
Dear Anon…. thank you for the kind words and wishes. I whole-heartedly agree with you about Dums… she’s a cherished blessing in the lives of those who know her and (through her blog) I’m sure, in the lives of many others.
Shomita, great job sharing your experience. There is always a bright light at the end of every tunnel, and I wish you a joyous and happy journey with Jeff.
Ritu… thank you so much. Jef and I definitely have a long way to go. .. but we’re trusting it will be an awesome adventure.